Times have changed. We all know that. We have felt it and witnessed it happening and this isn’t the end…nope. There is more to come. (Quite shocking isn’t it?) 😉

Sometime back I realized that every time I met a child or children I would ask them the very same questions and it felt like I was reading from the same script each and every time. It goes something like this:-


Hi. How are you?

What’s your name?

Oooh! Such a sweet/unique/cute/pretty name

Which class are you in?

That’s a lovely dress you are wearing. (For girls)

Mmmh. What’s up these days? ( For boys)…my brain gets kind of fuzzy when I try to connect with boys kwanza teenies coz you have no idea where to start without looking outdated or bila swag.

Then once the niceties are over and done with, that’s it. The child walks away hopefully with a smile and not a smirk on their face and I am left wondering. Wondering if I could have asked a different question to know more about who the child is aside from what they’ve worn or how fancy their name sounds.

I then challenged myself to be more creative with my one-on-one conversations.

So I sat down and thought and thought and thought. Notice I haven’t mentioned any writing. 😉 That’s when I decided to unashamedly make Google my best friend. You should try it out sometime. It’s quite the invention/creation! Trust me.

It seems I am not alone in the quest to spice up conversations, which is quite comforting coz it would be a lonely existence if I was to deal with this “gap” as a one “man” army. Here are a few of the questions I found interesting and some of which I have used and others that are lying in wait for the perfect victim situation.

  1. What is your favorite thing to do?
  2. If you could design a t-shirt, what would you draw or write on it?
  3. Do you have any jokes to tell me?
  4. What is the funniest thing you saw today/this week?
  5. If you could change anything about school what would it be?
  6. Who is your favorite TV/book/story character and what do you like about him/her?
  7. If you could wake up tomorrow with a superpower, what superpower would you want to have?
  8. If you could have any 3 wishes granted, what would they be?
  9. If all your clothes could only be one color, what color would you choose?
  10. If you could change the lunch menu at (school/home) what would you change?
  11. What is your biggest worry?
  12. Where is your favorite place to be?
  13. What is something you never thought you could tell me but maybe want to tell me now?
  14. Is there anything you have always wanted to ask me but didn’t? Do you want to ask me now?
  15. What’s the nicest thing anyone has ever said to you?
  16. Do you have a lucky number? Why is it lucky to you?
  17. If you had your own country, what would it be called?
  18. What rule is the hardest to follow at home/school/church?
  19. If you were a cartoon character who would you be?
  20. What makes you happy/sad?

Well, these are some of what would be relevant to me within the social circles I find myself in. what about you? Do they make you think what your own answer would be? Well I hope so. It’s a moment of bliss imagining how I would answer these questions if anyone asked me. So go out there armed to the teeth with a new conversation starter aside from the usual:-

Auntie umeniletea nini leo?


Have you been a good boy/girl?

Have fun getting to know the little ones around you now as time waits for no one.


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