What I have come to realize over the past couple of days is that life can really punch the living daylights out of you!


Yes… may still smile and wave and keep doing what you have habitually conditioned yourself to do…but you are a real life zombie. Therefore, no more scary movies for you, my dearest as it has been discovered that the scariest being in this world is….. (***drum rolls please***) YOU! Don’t give me that blank stare. You know, I know, you know I am right!

So on to the next order of business! How do we get the spring back into your steps? Natasha Bedingfield says it best in her song “Unwritten”…

Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions
Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins…

The rest is still unwritten.

What you are yearning for, feels so close and light years away and it quite difficult to shake off that feeling especially when everything and I mean EVERYTHING is not going your way.

I don’t want to go on and on about the sunken feeling in the very pit of your stomach or the heavy weight that never really leaves your shoulders, since you have heard it all before.

So today at this very moment, as you read this, my message to you is that;


So let it all go.

Dance to the beat of your heart.

Greet each new dawn with a grateful heart.

Don’t take life too seriously.

Purpose to thrive where you are &

Most of all

Smile!! 😉




Times have changed. We all know that. We have felt it and witnessed it happening and this isn’t the end…nope. There is more to come. (Quite shocking isn’t it?) 😉

Sometime back I realized that every time I met a child or children I would ask them the very same questions and it felt like I was reading from the same script each and every time. It goes something like this:-


Hi. How are you?

What’s your name?

Oooh! Such a sweet/unique/cute/pretty name

Which class are you in?

That’s a lovely dress you are wearing. (For girls)

Mmmh. What’s up these days? ( For boys)…my brain gets kind of fuzzy when I try to connect with boys kwanza teenies coz you have no idea where to start without looking outdated or bila swag.

Then once the niceties are over and done with, that’s it. The child walks away hopefully with a smile and not a smirk on their face and I am left wondering. Wondering if I could have asked a different question to know more about who the child is aside from what they’ve worn or how fancy their name sounds.

I then challenged myself to be more creative with my one-on-one conversations.

So I sat down and thought and thought and thought. Notice I haven’t mentioned any writing. 😉 That’s when I decided to unashamedly make Google my best friend. You should try it out sometime. It’s quite the invention/creation! Trust me.

It seems I am not alone in the quest to spice up conversations, which is quite comforting coz it would be a lonely existence if I was to deal with this “gap” as a one “man” army. Here are a few of the questions I found interesting and some of which I have used and others that are lying in wait for the perfect victim situation.

  1. What is your favorite thing to do?
  2. If you could design a t-shirt, what would you draw or write on it?
  3. Do you have any jokes to tell me?
  4. What is the funniest thing you saw today/this week?
  5. If you could change anything about school what would it be?
  6. Who is your favorite TV/book/story character and what do you like about him/her?
  7. If you could wake up tomorrow with a superpower, what superpower would you want to have?
  8. If you could have any 3 wishes granted, what would they be?
  9. If all your clothes could only be one color, what color would you choose?
  10. If you could change the lunch menu at (school/home) what would you change?
  11. What is your biggest worry?
  12. Where is your favorite place to be?
  13. What is something you never thought you could tell me but maybe want to tell me now?
  14. Is there anything you have always wanted to ask me but didn’t? Do you want to ask me now?
  15. What’s the nicest thing anyone has ever said to you?
  16. Do you have a lucky number? Why is it lucky to you?
  17. If you had your own country, what would it be called?
  18. What rule is the hardest to follow at home/school/church?
  19. If you were a cartoon character who would you be?
  20. What makes you happy/sad?

Well, these are some of what would be relevant to me within the social circles I find myself in. what about you? Do they make you think what your own answer would be? Well I hope so. It’s a moment of bliss imagining how I would answer these questions if anyone asked me. So go out there armed to the teeth with a new conversation starter aside from the usual:-

Auntie umeniletea nini leo?


Have you been a good boy/girl?

Have fun getting to know the little ones around you now as time waits for no one.



I can’t do this alone

I know how this ends

If I face life as a one man army

When I don’t know what I am doing,

When I don’t know where I am going,

When I feel I am used up,

Hold back the rain

Hold back the wind

Hold back the enemy

Save me again.

My heart had become a burial ground

But you’ve revived my very being

Triumphantly I shout

You’ve won my heart,

Unshackled my chains

When I get sick and tired of being sick and tired,

Hold back the rain

Hold back the wind

Hold back the enemy

Save me again.




There is always a time when we find ourselves in the wilderness. Sometimes you find yourself wandering in the wilderness year after year after year. It feels like you are going around the same mountain over and over and over again. This is because you truly are like a hamster on the wheel.

A wilderness is defined as a wild and uncultivated region, as of forest or desert, uninhabited or inhabited only by wild animals; a tract of wasteland.

The Israelites were in the wilderness for 40 years yet it was a 3 day journey from the Red Sea to the Promised Land. Why did it take so long for them to get to their destination? (Numbers 14:33)

John the Baptist’s mission was right in the wilderness as called to all those who would hear, to make way for the Lord. (John 1:23)

Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness and after fasting for forty days and nights the tempter came to Him with various temptations. (Mark 1:12-13)

Wilderness seasons are brutal. They wipe out every single fiber of resolve and drain any source of joy. They are humiliating, lonely and deafeningly boring.

Just like the Jews, you may arrive at a new destination (career, relationships, financial security, life purpose, etc) settle, develop, begin to feel at home and attempt to assimilate into the majority culture and society. Suddenly, everything collapses. A mighty and unforeseen wind uproots you after “centuries” of living there and you are forced to move.

The wilderness is a scary place. We never know what’s coming around the next bend. We never know what lies ahead despite how through we are at planning out our days. Life has its fair share of surprises. Get used to the fact that you can’t control everything around you. But that doesn’t mean you go with the flow. No! Do your part and everything else will fall into place.

Being in the wilderness should not be all gloom and doom. Its unchartered territory and it’s yours for the taking. Have fun exploring the unknown, within safe limits but have fun with it. Each season comes bearing its fair share of gifts and lessons that nurture and mould us into better versions of ourselves. This only happens if we break out of our safety nets and snug cocoons and try something new.

For too long you’ve have accepted the status quo in various facets of your life. You’ve been okay with how things have turned out and you never fight back. You’ve chosen to be lackluster in your responsibilities. Your notion has always been if no one complains, then it’s all good. You’ve given in to the bareness of the wilderness not knowing that it’s meant to shape and mould you.

However that’s not the case today. Not today, no, not today. Today, you fight back. You choose to thrive and not merely exist. You choose not to be the wall flower that’s barely noticed and is instantly forgotten. You choose to fight for your share and step into the unknown.



  1. Clothes look better on a mannequin. ☺
  2. Define your world before the world defines you.
  3. Discipline, Discipline, Discipline. You may be talented, but without discipline, you will miss out on your purpose. Discipline drives your purpose.
  4. English is a language spoken by millions but still remains quite mysterious. How else do you explain one word with the same letter being pronounced in a myriad of ways? Well, I guess if humans have multiple personalities, why can’t words?
  5. Estate caretakers, house helps and security guards should all write a book, individually or collectively. What don’t they know?
  6. FACT: If you remember something important that you need to carry with you the next day, just when you are crawling into bed at night; just drag yourself out of them blankets and place it within your view. Otherwise it will be compartmentalized in the DONE AND DONE recesses of your mind. 😉
  7. Not all Meru’s chew or have chewed Miraa. Kindly don’t ask me how it tastes. I really don’t know and don’t have the urge to find out. Muchos gracias.
  8. Some colognes and perfumes were specifically made to test how strong and effective my gag reflex is.
  9. The wrong people don’t leave your life voluntarily. No they don’t.
  10. There is beauty in uniformity and splendour in diversity.
  11. To get somewhere, seek the help of those who have been there and done that.
  12. To stay relevant, you have to work as if you have just started the journey.
  13. Want to get better at your craft? Practice each and every day whether you feel like or not.
  14. Whatever you recognize, you become thankful for and whatever you are grateful for multiplies.
  15. You are blessed to be a blessing.




Sometimes we are so settled in our hopeless conditions that we are afraid to change. Health and wholeness bring responsibility and effort that most of us who are physically, emotionally or spiritually exhausted may choose to avoid.

The paralyzed man by the pool of Bethesda was full of self pity; he complained but didn’t ask for help. There are times that you too, have a sickness, struggle with sin or face an injustice that seems to have no end. You may feel that no one care or is there for you when you need help.

Do not lose hope. Jesus is seeking you out and drawing you out of the seemingly hapless situation you are in.


When was the last time you obeyed a seemingly impossible command from God? The Lord’s command has 3 parts, each full of spiritual significance for us today as it was to the paralyzed man by the pool way back when. 38 years is a long time to sit on your mat. Every day is the same. Waiting. Watching. Hoping. Not much changes.

If you are “lying” helpless, overwhelmed by sin or resigned to impossible circumstances, choose to:

GET UP: this is a call to action. This means having faith and trust in God and getting rid of every dead weight and hindrances that are besetting us and preventing us from walking and embracing God’s gifts and calling for us.

PICK UP YOUR MAT: roll up and get rid of your excuses. The “mat” will always tempt us to do the easiest thing. Human nature leads us to remember why we had the mat/bed in the first place so we roll it out and go back to lay down and nurse wounds of the past, disappointment and hurts, while some of us , too overwhelmed with the challenges, fall off to sleep wallowing in self pity.

WALK: move from where you have lain for so long spiritually to where He calls you. Put forth your efforts in obedience to the command of Jesus Christ.

The question remains; Do you want to get well? Our loving God does not keep score of the many times you’ve crawled back to your mat. All He is asking of you and me today is; Get up, pick up your mat and walk.



If you give a moose a muffin,

He’ll want some jam to go with it.

So you’ll bring out some of your mother’s homemade blackberry jam.

When he’s finished eating the muffin, he’ll want another.

And another…

And another.

When they’re all gone,

He’ll ask you to make more.


You’ll have to go to the store to get some muffin mix.

He’ll want to go with you.

When he opens the door and feels how chilly it is,

He’ll ask to borrow a sweater.

When he puts the sweater on, he’ll notice one of the buttons is loose.

He’ll ask for a needle and thread.

He’ll start sewing.

The button will remind him of the puppets his grandmother used to make.

So he’ll ask for some old socks.

He’ll make sock puppets.

When they’re done, he’ll want to put on a puppet show.

He’ll need some cardboard and paints.

Then he’ll ask you to help make the scenery.

When the scenery is finished, he’ll get behind the couch.

But his antlers will stick out.

So he’ll ask for something to cover them up.

You’ll bring him a sheet from your bed.

When he sees the sheet, he’ll remember he wants to be a ghost for Halloween.

He’ll try it out and shout,


It’ll scare him so much; he’ll knock over the paints.

So he’ll use the sheet to clean up the mess.

Then he’ll ask for some soap to wash it out.

He’ll probably want to hang the sheet up to dry.

He’ll go outside to put it on the clothesline.

When he’s out in the yard, he’ll see your mother’s blackberry bushes.

Seeing the blackberries will remind him of her jam.

He’ll probably ask you for some.

And chances are…

If you give him the jam,

He’ll want a muffin to go with it.

By Laura Numeroff